I've been thinking lately about what it means to really believe. How do we really "see" with believing eyes? ...How do we accomplish our true desires and become the people we dream to be?
For me, I dream to have Christlike eyes. I wish to take all of the worldly/human like things we inevitably experience and turn them into positive energy. I desire to gain unshakable faith and strength in my transgressions. I dream to become like my Savior and to know the potential He see's in me.
I wish to rid myself of negativity and conquer the brain...I just wish to see true beauty in myself, in others, in life, and to love as God loves.
I read a quote about how 'life isn't so much about becoming anything, but unbecoming everything that isn't really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.'
So HOW do we do that? Thoughts that come to my mind from experience and advice...
1. Start where you are. If we could all just let go of the things in our past, we would have a healthier and more positive view of what we can accomplish. It's not about the past or even the present, but where we are going. If you can't or don't believe, pray to have belief. Ask for help from Heavenly Father that He will help you let go of your past and help you accomplish your desires. Starting where you are is all you need:) & all that your God needs.
2. Manage your time. We live in a world where social media is the ruler and everything is at our fingertips. There is so much positivity that can come from these things, but like I mentioned earlier, sometimes these worldly things can become inevitably negative. They can create and amplify greed, jealousy, envy, and turn us away from the beauty in our own lives. We must manage our time and fill our days with health and positivity. I, like anyone else, find myself scrolling through Instagram on the daily, but there is something to be said when we take a break and put the phone down for a little bit.
-Get some exercise. Whether that is taking the stairs at work or going on a jog, your body and mind need those endorphins!
-Serve someone everyday. There is nothing that brings you closer to God.
-Put the phone down and turn the computer off. Minimizing the use of these can bring more gratitude and happiness in your life. It can help you see others differently, see yourself differently, and be more aware of what is around you. We don't need this stuff..We don't truly know what is going on in someone's life or who they are by a post. Sometimes it's easy to get caught up in the appearance of things through social media. Take a break, if even for 1 day, and fill that time with something like calling an old friend:) Continuing to decrease these things can be very effective. I have seen it in my own life.
-Do something for yourself. We all need those moments that pick us up. Take time to be by yourself and do something that makes YOU feel good. It could be a yoga class or something as simple as getting a diet coke:) I know that is my "go to" haha.
-Continue to read, and write, and LEARN. Your minds health and function need it. I always turn to self help books and my journal is a daily go to. Writing helps me remember I am doing okay. It gets me in tune with myself and the Spirit. I love reflecting on my writings when I am going through a hard or weak moment...it reminds me that I have gotten through hard things and that I won't be stuck in this hard moment forever.... Learn from podcasts, books, classes, traveling...just never stop learning and trying to become someone better.
-Make a TO DO list and take a deep breath. Sometimes we just get ahead of ourselves.
3. Incorporate your gospel everyday. For me this is a MUST. Talking to my Father in Heaven and telling Him everything. My ups, my downs, my true desires, my transgressions...He listens and helps me. Even those little weaknesses that no one else knows about...He knows and He helps me through them. I have to do my part. To try, to read my scriptures, to serve, to tackle my struggles, to not only pray once or twice a day, but multiple times. It is a constant challenge that I work through everyday, but the wonderful thing is I don't have to do any of it alone.
If it isn't prayer and scripture study everyday, it is attending church meetings on Sunday. There is no better way than through the divine to heal, to grow, and to see through believing eyes. God believes in us and loves us more than we can comprehend. He is our biggest advocate. He can truly help us see our potential and help us accomplish the desires of our hearts. He can help us have those 'eyes to see' beauty in its purest form.
4. Keep going. Never give up on yourself or start to think that you are incapable. I have seen first hand the true meaning of continuing to push forward when you feel like you have nothing left to give.. and how, by taking even the smallest of baby steps, and being extremely patient with yourself, you can start to move in the direction you desire.
It's okay to have bad days. To have sad days that feel a little gloomy. It is okay to get angry or want to cry. To want to scream. It is OKAY to feel exactly how you want to feel.. or go through weird moments that don't feel quite like you. Thoughts are sometimes just thoughts, and they don't define who YOU are. These unexplainable moments don't define you. They are normal... and it took me a long time to learn that it's okay. These are apart of those human like emotions and thoughts that we WILL go through..and it's okay. Like I said earlier--it is all about what we do with these moments and how to turn them into positive energy. Your brain may be powerful, but you are more powerful, and it can be conquered. I just love that.
So there you go... Use these 4 steps to help you work towards having those believing eyes in whatever area you seek. I am learning more and more that each one of us really is going through our own individual struggles & I think that there is not a stronger indication that we truly need each other.
See with more Christlike eyes this Christmas & enjoy the holidays!
Sunday, December 20, 2015
Thursday, November 19, 2015
20's
A good friend recently told me that our 20's are a time of discovery. A time to explore, struggle, grow, and ultimately shape our future. There are a lot of big time decisions to be made in our 20s and it can be overwhelming.. This is the time to fall down repeatedly and get back up. To get hurt and become stronger. To test our career path, our relationships, and who we really want to be...
So be strong! Be that believer. Be okay with taking chances and risks everyday. Travel as often as you can and don't waste a minute. Don't let someone else or something else define you. Live in the now and just "be" ... Don't think too much about the future. You are exactly where you are supposed to be, and like I constantly say, you are doing better than you think. Expect the best out of yourself.
My 20s have been a great journey so far. Wow.. There have been some ups and downs, some laughs and tears...but oh how much I have learned. I've learned the true value of family and how a niece or nephew can change your world. I've danced with incredible individuals. I've graduated from college and freaked out because I didn't know what the heck I was going to do with my life. I've seen deaths. I've seen love.. I've fallen in love.. And I have had a better taste of life and what it TRULY means to grow.
So in honor of those fantastic 20s, I have decided to try a special something. I would love to hear from you... And what I want to hear are the good things. We live in a world where there is too much negativity thrown in our faces and we miss out on those simple, good, beautiful moments. So I want to hear about those moments! Please email sadielyngeorge@mail.com and let me know of something happy or positive that you witnessed today. It could be as simple as seeing a couple hold hands and smile at each other, or someone open the door for another stranger.. A personal story. A life changing moment. Whatever you would like! I just want it to be positive :) I will post a happy moment everyday for the next 20 days. What better way to celebrate life, our 20s, and prepare for the happiness of the holidays ahead! :) thanks!
Friday, November 6, 2015
Structure.
It is crazy what a busy schedule and a little bit of structure can do! The last few months, while going through some emotional challenges and life changes, I was in complete LIMBO. I was a college graduate with a set direction, and not only did that direction suddenly and unknowingly change, but it was thrown bumps and turns of every kind! ...my road was suddenly foggy and confusing and I didn't have a plan. I wasn't dancing anymore, I didn't have a job, and my once BYU Provo "cush" and busy life was gone. Complete overload! haha.
I always thought that not being busy would be nice! No commitments, no job, just live and do what I wanted. haha. Well once it actually happened to me, with all sorts of other changes, I hated it! I didn't know who I was anymore or my purpose. What was the point of getting up in the morning? ...I tried to keep myself busy with things, but I couldn't get out of my funk. I wasn't progressing or feeling like I was contributing to the world.
Well I finally landed a couple of jobs! It took some time and some patience, but wow it feels good. I have to get up early (even though sometimes that is REALLY HARD. My first day I cried), but it has been the best thing for me. A busier schedule has given me energy and motivation. It has helped me take better care of myself and stay better in tune mentally and physically. It has helped my relationships grow and has ultimately helped me climb out of my funk:) ....
So I am a firm believer in the positive effect a busy schedule can have! For me, having a job helps me see things differently and feel more motivated to accomplish other things. I want to work out, I want to go take dance classes, I want to serve people and be with my friends...being busy just makes me feel better!
I know that our schedules can be out of control sometimes. At times we just wish that things would slow down so we could catch a breath. I think there is definitely that fine line of how busy we should make ourselves... we don't want to be running around like a crazy person all of time! ... but try to find the good and gratitude in your schedule:) Take time for yourself to breath and simplify (we all can do that), but maybe try to look at your busy schedule a little differently.
I am grateful I have a job.
I am grateful I have a car to get me there.
I am grateful for a busy schedule that helps keep me motivated and progressing!
Have a great weekend!! :)
Friday, October 30, 2015
Holiday Happy.
The leaves have changed and the air is crisp...mmm...it's time to pull out the sweaters, beanies, and boots, and I LOVE IT. So many fun holidays coming up! :)
I have been trying this new thing lately. Acceptance. Being more accepting of myself and my current situation and being gentle. I never realized how hard I was on myself until I graduated from college and no longer had dance, school, and all of these things that made me feel powerful and somewhat in control. I have always said that someone needs to write a book on 'How to Function After College' haha. I thought I handled change well until that all happened... I went through a lot in a short few months and I found myself getting really frustrated and down. I didn't have every little thing in my life figured out anymore and I really beat myself up about it. I wasn't right where I wanted to be or where I thought I should be and that caused so much distress! I think we can all be sooooo hard on ourselves for things like that. Just because I didn't have everything figured out right after college I was freaking out!
Lately I have been praying to be more accepting of myself and where I am at... and praying for strength...and God has been listening. I definitely still have my hard days, but I'm trying to not see them as set backs. They are just bumps. I have realized that when I am more accepting of who I am, my thoughts, and where I am at, things just seem to go so much better. I am happier, more hopeful, and I see things differently. It's a beautiful feeling I wish I could describe better. Things seem to fall into place when the pressure disappears.
So that is my challenge this week! Try to be more accepting of exactly where you are at and love yourself more. They are right when they say that you can't truly love someone else until you love yourself. I have noticed the incredible strength and hope that comes from accepting myself and my circumstances. Thoughts can be powerful--they can maybe make you feel like you aren't going to reach that level you want--but you will. You are already on your way if you just keep trying and find something to smile about everyday along the way. Your thoughts don't define you!
So try to love & accept and find some FUN activities to do this holiday season :) It is a time to be happy.
"Keep your head up. Take your time. Be proud of yourself. Always remember, you are right where you're supposed to be" :)
Thursday, October 1, 2015
friends.
friends.
In the last couple of months I have learned a lot about what a true friend is...and how important it is to have friends in your life. I don't know if I cherish my friends enough or express enough gratitude for them. It is pretty rare to find those that love you completely for you..who understand all of your corks and still stick around ;) It is especially rare to find a friend that will go out of their way to care for you in those times of need... that is when you know you are very lucky.
That's simply it. I feel extremely lucky to have the friends that I do. I live in a place where I am surrounded with them and get the chance to have encounters with them everyday. I get to laugh, open up, and just be me...the good and the bad..and I forget what a blessing that is. You never really realize the magnitude of that blessing until you are far away from those friends and don't have them in your day to day.
It is not always easy to let people help you. When you are going through something really hard it is easy to push people away...it's not always easy to be vulnerable or honest...to let others see that you are weak and are in need of a hand. I have always wanted to be that person that helps other people..my friends. I didn't want to be the one that needed the help... but lately my friends have proven to me that God sends us earthly angels. I know this is clique, but I really don't know where I would be without them. Friendship, loyalty, and selflessness have taken on a whole new meaning for me because of these angels... and the amount of people that have gone above and beyond to help me has been incredible.
Sometimes it is good to just take a step back and look at all of the good people in your life. I love those moments that remind you of how caring people can be & how we were really sent here to help one another. I'm so grateful for the people in my life that haven't given up on me and have taught me what it means to truly love someone. We have been blessed with that incredible ability to love people and I think that human existence seems to make a little bit more sense when you see someone struggling that you have the opportunity to help. I'm grateful for the moments that remind us that we all have struggles and that we can't do it without one another.
So I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you to the angels in my life that have lifted me up and have made me strong. For loving me through the good and the bad and for showing me constant support. I don't realize the impact you have in my life until I go through something really hard, and I need to tell you all more how much I appreciate you.
Maybe we could all try to be a little bit better friends. To tell our friends how great they are and all of the amazing qualities they possess. Look out for your friends and try to be a little more aware... I think we all have those moments in our lives where we feel crazy and out of place, and we need our friends to remind us that we are great the way we are and that we are doing a good job. No one has their crap figured out... haha... and I think that is what makes life such an incredible journey. So not only try to help your friends, but let your friends help you:)
i love my friends.
Sunday, September 27, 2015
something to smile about.
I hope that everyone has had a good weekend! I have been writing and reading a lot and there is so much to share:) ...
Yesterday I had the chance to listen to the Women's Broadcast for the LDS church. It was beautiful and had some really powerful messages. I recommend listening to the entire broadcast on lds.org, but I wanted to touch on some of my favorites.
"There are two important days in a woman's life. The day she is born, and the day she finds out why" - Elaine Cannon.
We are all here for a divine purpose and our divine nature has incredible potential. Once we discover that in ourselves, we can begin to see it in others. Because we are Gods children, He knows what we can become! Sometimes I think we underestimate that potential and the power we have. If you are searching for yours, pray to God and ask Him to help you find it. It is time to find out why you are here on this earth:)
'Through test, trial, and fear....be valiant.'
Elder Ucthdorf, one of my favorite apostles, told a story about faith, hope, and love. The old lady in his story was one of the happiest. Even though it was obvious she had had several trials in her life, she went along the path skipping and being joyful. When someone asked her WHY she was so happy, she gave a beautiful response. She said that there were enough things in life that didn't go right...we could be quick to focus on those things, or decide to be joyful no matter the circumstance and find the good in everyday. She had been very miserable at one point in her life, but the tool that turned things around for her was FAITH. That faith turned to HOPE. "No matter what happened in the past, your story can have a happy ending. You have a glorious future! Let faith give you the hope to live joyfully now--fill your life with meaningful things". That hope then turned to LOVE, which is the central focus of the gospel and life.
My heart grew so full after these talks. Some of the things that I have been trying to work on and learn more about are Faith & the Atonement. The messages encompassed these topics so well and gave me a greater understanding. If we are filling our lives with meaningful things and doing all we can to follow the Savior, we have nothing to worry about. He will not let us "go amiss".
Walk along a bring path and let hope open up your eyes to what God has in store. Let faith be in every footstep. I felt overwhelmed with the Spirit after this conference and for the first time in a long time... I felt my Heavenly Father's arms wrapped around me. I couldn't hold back the tears. I had let myself lose the Spirit for what seemed like so long.. and I had lost hope...and even though I am still working everyday, the progress I have made fills my heart with so much gratitude. I knew in that moment that my Heavenly Father was there and was truly taking care of me. I KNEW that he was aware of me and had been there all along. He knows my heart and my true intentions, and He is shaping me into someone better. Someone stronger and more valiant. For the first time in a long time I was crying happy tears... and it felt so good.
I know that for faith and the atonement to truly work in my life, I first have to believe and HOLD on to that belief. You too... hold on to Heavenly Father & believe in His plan for you. Know that His atonement can and will work in your life according to His timing and that the person you are and are becoming is extraordinary. "Don't give up! Don't you quit! ...trust in God and believe in good things to come"
Fill your life with meaningful things and try to find the good in everyday!! :)
"God did not design us to be sad. He created us to have joy!"
Wednesday, September 23, 2015
It's okay.
Hey blogging world. Thank you for letting me share my thoughts & get things down in writing. I feel like I have so much to share & hopefully you can get something out of it :) I'm grateful for people's willingness to allow me to do what I love.
A lot has happened lately... and for this post, I just want readers to know that they are great. that they are doing a great job. and that they are never alone. In the last couple of months I have been through some of the hardest and lowest moments of my 24 years of life. It was like one minute my world was happy and bright, and the next this dark cloud took over all of my sunshine. Literally...it was quick and powerful. I lost my love for everything. and I lost me...
We will all go through moments where we get hit with an unexpected curve ball and our world seems dark and gray. I know for me, I always try to make it seem like things in my life are good, put together, and that I am always happy... but hey.. you aren't always going to be like that, and it is okay to let others see your weaknesses. That just means you are human... we are all just these imperfect people trying to find who we are and our places in the world.. and I think there is something so beautiful and real about that.
My situation does not even compare to those that suffer from clinical depression and anxiety, but I recently went through a psychic blow that left me seeing a psychiatrist and taking medication. Those that go through this fight daily and for many years are my heroes... I imagine that it is hard thing to catch and take care of before it takes over. I thought that I was just going through a rough patch and a lot of changes, but that things would go back to normal soon... but they didn't.
Each individual suffers from things that we can't begin to comprehend. I just want you to know that there is hope. That there IS light, and it doesn't just have to come at the end of the tunnel...it can be there throughout. You are never ever alone and you have a Heavenly Father that will never desert you... and hey. It's okay! It's okay to admit that you are going through something really hard and that you need help. For the longest time I just tried to square my shoulders and fight it, but there is nothing wrong with taking a step back and letting people help you. Seek a counselor or psychiatrist if needed... there is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about.
Be gentle with yourself.
Know that just because you have thoughts doesn't mean that you are those thoughts... try to observe them but not place judgement on them.
I want you to know that you are beautiful.
I want you to know that you are doing a great job.
I want you to know that through Heavenly Father, He can not only help you with whatever insecurity or experience you might be in... but that He can literally heal you. That is what the Atonement is all about.
Be patient. Be kind. Don't be afraid to open up and be vulnerable about hard things... we are on this earth to help people. I know that God has sent me so many angels to help me get through this difficult time in my life, and as hard as it has been, I am so glad that I have been able to open up and admit that I need help. I know what it feels like to want to keep things locked in and hide from everyone. To feel so far gone that you think there is no way you can climb out of this dark hole... but I promise you...you can. Don't give up.
If you or someone you know is going through a really hard time, tell them to read The Infinite Atonement by Tad R. Callister. Someone recommended it to me and it has been a huge blessing:)
Now lets all get back on a healthy and happy track eh? ... It has been really hard, but I am taking steps everyday! Not all days are good, but that doesn't mean that progress isn't being made. You can do it too.
A lot has happened lately... and for this post, I just want readers to know that they are great. that they are doing a great job. and that they are never alone. In the last couple of months I have been through some of the hardest and lowest moments of my 24 years of life. It was like one minute my world was happy and bright, and the next this dark cloud took over all of my sunshine. Literally...it was quick and powerful. I lost my love for everything. and I lost me...
We will all go through moments where we get hit with an unexpected curve ball and our world seems dark and gray. I know for me, I always try to make it seem like things in my life are good, put together, and that I am always happy... but hey.. you aren't always going to be like that, and it is okay to let others see your weaknesses. That just means you are human... we are all just these imperfect people trying to find who we are and our places in the world.. and I think there is something so beautiful and real about that.
My situation does not even compare to those that suffer from clinical depression and anxiety, but I recently went through a psychic blow that left me seeing a psychiatrist and taking medication. Those that go through this fight daily and for many years are my heroes... I imagine that it is hard thing to catch and take care of before it takes over. I thought that I was just going through a rough patch and a lot of changes, but that things would go back to normal soon... but they didn't.
Each individual suffers from things that we can't begin to comprehend. I just want you to know that there is hope. That there IS light, and it doesn't just have to come at the end of the tunnel...it can be there throughout. You are never ever alone and you have a Heavenly Father that will never desert you... and hey. It's okay! It's okay to admit that you are going through something really hard and that you need help. For the longest time I just tried to square my shoulders and fight it, but there is nothing wrong with taking a step back and letting people help you. Seek a counselor or psychiatrist if needed... there is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about.
Be gentle with yourself.
Know that just because you have thoughts doesn't mean that you are those thoughts... try to observe them but not place judgement on them.
I want you to know that you are beautiful.
I want you to know that you are doing a great job.
I want you to know that through Heavenly Father, He can not only help you with whatever insecurity or experience you might be in... but that He can literally heal you. That is what the Atonement is all about.
Be patient. Be kind. Don't be afraid to open up and be vulnerable about hard things... we are on this earth to help people. I know that God has sent me so many angels to help me get through this difficult time in my life, and as hard as it has been, I am so glad that I have been able to open up and admit that I need help. I know what it feels like to want to keep things locked in and hide from everyone. To feel so far gone that you think there is no way you can climb out of this dark hole... but I promise you...you can. Don't give up.
If you or someone you know is going through a really hard time, tell them to read The Infinite Atonement by Tad R. Callister. Someone recommended it to me and it has been a huge blessing:)
Now lets all get back on a healthy and happy track eh? ... It has been really hard, but I am taking steps everyday! Not all days are good, but that doesn't mean that progress isn't being made. You can do it too.
Sunday, June 21, 2015
it's time to be BRAVE.
I have recently started reading a Margie Warrell book called
BRAVE-50 Everyday Acts of Courage to Thrive in Work, Love, and Life-
and I can't help but share what I have learned. I am only a few chapters in, but what Mrs. Warrell has to say is applicable to anyone and so inspirational. I want to share several posts about her book, chapter by chapter, so lets start with blips from the introduction :)
"The truth is…living bravely is not easy. The only way to be brave is to act bravely-day in, day out-when times are easy and life feels good and when times are tough and it doesn't. courage isn't about fearlessness. It's taking action even though you're scared". It is like developing a habit or learning a new trade…"the more often you act bravely, the more you grow your 'muscles for life'"
'Living fully is synonymous with living bravely'
food for thought.
….and that is just the introduction…
…stay tuned for her steps on HOW to do so and WHERE to start...
:)
xoxo
Tuesday, June 9, 2015
your people.
Who are the people in your life that make you YOU? The people that make you brave? The people that see you for who you really are and inspire you to be better? The people that love every part of you and give you hope?
Who are your people?
…maybe tell them you love them today:)
here are a few of mine...
Saturday, June 6, 2015
make your brain happy.
Did you know that you can rewire your brain to be happy by simply recalling 3 things you are grateful for everyday for 21 days? It takes 21 days to officially make something a habit.. So start your positive habit today! :)
Gratitude can be very powerful.
Today I am grateful for:
1. The stranger that surprised our table and paid for our lunch.
2. Richard Wirthlin & his positive attitude.
3. Sun sets.
Tuesday, June 2, 2015
the power of your mind.
Sometimes I just sit and wonder how I can make people's lives better. Ways that I can help people see their true worth, capabilities, and beauty…and all that each day has to offer. I'm not always good at this myself, but I believe that feeding yourself with the right positivity can bring hard work, happiness, and gratitude. It can help you see situations and people differently, and realize who you can become… & hundreds of research studies seem to agree. If you are needing proof, flip open the book:Happiness Advantage.
At my internship here in Boston, I have been introduced to integrative medicine and the power of the body--the power of the mind. Like I mentioned in my last post, I believe that the thoughts and beliefs you feed into your mind are what you become--negative or positive. It seems fairly simple. You think negatively, you become negative, and vice versa. So how do you change your thoughts and train your mind to think more positively? Especially in those weak and low moments? ..We have all been through a number of different trials and situations that our minds hold onto and react to differently. These experiences shape our minds into what they are today, or more so, who we are. We go through ups and downs, long moments of sorrow followed by times of happiness and bliss… you must experience both..but isn't a peace of mind through it all what we ultimately strive for? So how do you prepare and gain this solid ground of peace through every situation? We all have individual things that work …but here are a few ideas of my own.
1. Express gratitude. Write down 3 things everyday that you are grateful for. Try to do this at the same time everyday and maybe even incorporate others in the new habit. Share these things with your loved ones and make a family effort..see the affect it can have in your home.
2. Form and keep relationships. Our brain needs relationships to neurologically grow and become our whole selves. Keep up the relationships you have with family & friends and constantly try to make new ones.. put yourself in somewhat uncomfortable positions and get outside of your comfort zone to meet new people.
3. Exercise. Get those endorphins pumping daily & keep your body and brain happy. When you feel good about your body, you are more positive and productive throughout the day.
4. Spirituality. Whatever it may be for you…whether its your religion or some sort of belief in nature or a higher power, find time to make it a central part of your life. I know that my religion and praying to God is what helps keep me grounded.
5. Make room for moments by yourself. Turn off your phone, shut your computer, and put away all of that social media. Find a place that is quiet and peaceful and just be by yourself for a little bit. My favorite places to do this are when I'm hiking up in the mountains, laying on the grass in the sun, or even driving in my car. I turn off my music and just think for a little bit.
I think it's important to remember that hardships and negativity are inevitable..but that there is hope in the reassurance that those moments will pass. Anger, sadness, frustration..let yourself accept these normalities..take them in completely and then let them go and start over. This may be a slow process and something you have to work at multiple times a day…but that is completely okay. You are human.
Just take a look at what you are feeding your mind and see if there needs to be a change.
An LDS talk, a heart felt prayer, writing in my journal, taking a dance or yoga class, a hard workout, looking through old writings, talking with a friend…all of these help me feel a little less crazy:)
Depending on your situation..other things that might help are:
Somatic Experiencing: A type of talk therapy (great for PTSD) that helps you recognize and heal through your senses. Some might call this stuff crazy, but I think that there is something incredible about it.
Naturopathy: Let a professional help get your diet and lifestyle on track so you can have a clear and healthy mind.
MindBody Coaching/Life Coaching: Get help planning and assessing your life goals and the best way to reach them..get in touch with your mind and body and how they work hand in hand.
The mind is powerful, but your soul is even more powerful. The more positive reinforcements we can establish, the easier it is for our souls to take the lead and get rid of the negativity more quickly. So start feeding your mind in the right way! Don't walk outside and curse the heat…be grateful that the sun is shining!
xoxo
Tuesday, May 26, 2015
spiritual overload.
Today was a beautiful & unexplainable Sunday. A day that gave me so much peace and comfort, and that reassured me that there is a God who hears me. It was a day that was almost so perfectly and significantly placed that I couldn't help but write about it.
This Sunday just so happened to fall on a day when I was feeling extremely discouraged and alone. I can't really even explain it, but a weekend by myself put my mind into overload thinking about everything in my life, and I felt as though I was completely lost. I have learned that the mind is such a powerful tool-for good & for bad-and feeding it with the right desires and positive reinforcements is crucial…it's just not always so easy… However, through the incredible & miraculous power of the Savior & His Atonement, our minds & our hearts can be changed and ever so comforted. He feels every ache and pain that you feel. He knows, better than anyone else, exactly what you are going through…and He is there, even in those moments of heartache and despair.
The testimony I gained of my Savior's awareness today was incredible. He not only placed the right people in my path, but the right talks, hymns, everything! We discussed the talk, The Plan of Happiness, by Elder Boyd K. Packer, and the significance it had in my life was spot on. It was not only brought up in the first meeting, but in my personal visit with the bishop, and in a random email my dad felt inclined to send me later on in the day. I was meant to read that talk! By the time it got to my dads email, I was in tears with the amount of peace and comfort I had received... The talks in sacrament were based on the Holy Spirit and being able to recognize and understand it. I learned that like anything new, being able to recognize and understand the Spirit takes time and practice. It is like learning a new language or instrument. Patience and practice are key, and piece by piece you begin to learn and understand it better. I never thought of the Spirit in that way and it really hit me... I may have these crazy times where I freak out and let my mind take over, but the important thing is that I continue to try and push through them. I am battling my trials like anyone else in the world, and I am learning how to understand the Spirit better...to not feed my worldly and negative desires..and to maintain a more eternal perspective. Something important to remember is sometimes trying so hard to get rid of a "freak out moment" or a negative thought can be detrimental. You can become so upset with yourself and just make it worse... you almost need to take a second to see how your body is feeling, try and observe this moment from the outside looking in, and fully acknowledge it. Your full acknowledgement and awareness will help the moment pass more quickly..& completely pass..instead of holding on to a small piece of it. This is something I learned at my internship here in Boston called SOMATIC EXPERIENCING. It is a really incredible type of therapy and healing.. (but that is for another post:) ...
3 tips on better recognizing and understanding the Spirit:
1. Prayer. This is the time for you to talk to the Lord and humbly share everything that is on your mind.
2. Scripture study. When we need to talk to the Lord, we pray. When He needs to talk to us, He says it through the scriptures. Daily prayer and scripture study are so important when it comes to being in tune with the Spirit.
3. Go and do! We then have to go out and utilize the Spirit...use it and learn from experience. If we are being obedient and doing all we can for the Lord, "we cannot go amiss".
We also sang the beautiful hymn, "Be Still My Soul". These particular words reminded me that my Heavenly Father was "by my side" and that He was going to continue to provide for me. He was going to continue to "guide my future like He had the past"...The bishop also gave me a beautiful blessing and reassured me that God was proud of me and what I was doing... He said that God knew the true intentions of my heart and that I just needed to continue to push forward and be patient. Holy spiritual overload! It was all so incredible!
So the biggest thing that I took from today that I really wanted to share was.. God is there and He is more aware of you than you know. We all experience days of trial and hardships--our trials are very different from one another--& every thought, trial, or experience you have is particular to you. Some may be unexplainable and extremely hard...but there is hope & light in every moment. If you have the desire to do good for The Lord and you are trying, that is enough. He is filling up your cup and you might not even know it. Your cup may be filling up slower than others or slower than you want... but it is being filled, and eventually, He will make things known to you that will make your cup overflow...
Another thing is.. Life is what you make it. My dad shared some really good advice with me about starting out a journey... a new internship, a new relationship, a new big step in life.. it is all about the effort you put in and what you make of it. At first, it might be a hard adjustment, but eventually you get in the swing of things and become more comfortable. It is an everyday process of work and dedication to continue to grow in it and love it even more...You can use this advice in a lot of different ways in your life.. I just thought it was inspiring and my dad seemed to say it so beautifully.
So there you go. A mouth full of things to take with you and hopefully something I said will help you in whatever circumstance you are in. Know that you are beautiful.. that your thoughts and feelings are valid (as crazy as they may seem), and that God understands them completely. Keep trying to do your best in the world and make other people happy. The church of Jesus Christ is so very true, and after this Sunday, I know that God is real more than ever.
This Sunday just so happened to fall on a day when I was feeling extremely discouraged and alone. I can't really even explain it, but a weekend by myself put my mind into overload thinking about everything in my life, and I felt as though I was completely lost. I have learned that the mind is such a powerful tool-for good & for bad-and feeding it with the right desires and positive reinforcements is crucial…it's just not always so easy… However, through the incredible & miraculous power of the Savior & His Atonement, our minds & our hearts can be changed and ever so comforted. He feels every ache and pain that you feel. He knows, better than anyone else, exactly what you are going through…and He is there, even in those moments of heartache and despair.
The testimony I gained of my Savior's awareness today was incredible. He not only placed the right people in my path, but the right talks, hymns, everything! We discussed the talk, The Plan of Happiness, by Elder Boyd K. Packer, and the significance it had in my life was spot on. It was not only brought up in the first meeting, but in my personal visit with the bishop, and in a random email my dad felt inclined to send me later on in the day. I was meant to read that talk! By the time it got to my dads email, I was in tears with the amount of peace and comfort I had received... The talks in sacrament were based on the Holy Spirit and being able to recognize and understand it. I learned that like anything new, being able to recognize and understand the Spirit takes time and practice. It is like learning a new language or instrument. Patience and practice are key, and piece by piece you begin to learn and understand it better. I never thought of the Spirit in that way and it really hit me... I may have these crazy times where I freak out and let my mind take over, but the important thing is that I continue to try and push through them. I am battling my trials like anyone else in the world, and I am learning how to understand the Spirit better...to not feed my worldly and negative desires..and to maintain a more eternal perspective. Something important to remember is sometimes trying so hard to get rid of a "freak out moment" or a negative thought can be detrimental. You can become so upset with yourself and just make it worse... you almost need to take a second to see how your body is feeling, try and observe this moment from the outside looking in, and fully acknowledge it. Your full acknowledgement and awareness will help the moment pass more quickly..& completely pass..instead of holding on to a small piece of it. This is something I learned at my internship here in Boston called SOMATIC EXPERIENCING. It is a really incredible type of therapy and healing.. (but that is for another post:) ...
3 tips on better recognizing and understanding the Spirit:
1. Prayer. This is the time for you to talk to the Lord and humbly share everything that is on your mind.
2. Scripture study. When we need to talk to the Lord, we pray. When He needs to talk to us, He says it through the scriptures. Daily prayer and scripture study are so important when it comes to being in tune with the Spirit.
3. Go and do! We then have to go out and utilize the Spirit...use it and learn from experience. If we are being obedient and doing all we can for the Lord, "we cannot go amiss".
We also sang the beautiful hymn, "Be Still My Soul". These particular words reminded me that my Heavenly Father was "by my side" and that He was going to continue to provide for me. He was going to continue to "guide my future like He had the past"...The bishop also gave me a beautiful blessing and reassured me that God was proud of me and what I was doing... He said that God knew the true intentions of my heart and that I just needed to continue to push forward and be patient. Holy spiritual overload! It was all so incredible!
So the biggest thing that I took from today that I really wanted to share was.. God is there and He is more aware of you than you know. We all experience days of trial and hardships--our trials are very different from one another--& every thought, trial, or experience you have is particular to you. Some may be unexplainable and extremely hard...but there is hope & light in every moment. If you have the desire to do good for The Lord and you are trying, that is enough. He is filling up your cup and you might not even know it. Your cup may be filling up slower than others or slower than you want... but it is being filled, and eventually, He will make things known to you that will make your cup overflow...
Another thing is.. Life is what you make it. My dad shared some really good advice with me about starting out a journey... a new internship, a new relationship, a new big step in life.. it is all about the effort you put in and what you make of it. At first, it might be a hard adjustment, but eventually you get in the swing of things and become more comfortable. It is an everyday process of work and dedication to continue to grow in it and love it even more...You can use this advice in a lot of different ways in your life.. I just thought it was inspiring and my dad seemed to say it so beautifully.
So there you go. A mouth full of things to take with you and hopefully something I said will help you in whatever circumstance you are in. Know that you are beautiful.. that your thoughts and feelings are valid (as crazy as they may seem), and that God understands them completely. Keep trying to do your best in the world and make other people happy. The church of Jesus Christ is so very true, and after this Sunday, I know that God is real more than ever.
Monday, May 11, 2015
overcoming addiction.
I decided to dedicate this next post to the reason I started this blog in the first place. Addiction & how to overcome it.
All of us, at one point in our lives, may experience what we call an addiction. Something that we have become so obsessed with, that it becomes harmful to ourselves and those around us. Something that has taken over a part of our mind and that we keep doing in spite of the outcome. We might not catch it at first, and the things that we are engaging in may even be healthy-like exercise and food-but something so overly thought of and taken to extreme levels can be so damaging.
Addictions can be scary and exhausting. It is almost as if you need that one thing in your life to function. I have been there and knows what this feels like. I could not and would not eat anything remotely bad for me, and I had to go to the gym to get my "fix" everyday…no matter how little I had eaten..& my exercising had become extreme and harmful. It doesn't even have to be a physical thing you are addicted to…it can be as simple as a thought. They can start off very small and then grow into something overpowering and more than our own willpower can handle.. We may think our addiction is not a big deal, and we may think that conquering these types of things by ourselves is an easy task..but as time passes, and the addiction grows stronger, we come to realize that this is something far beyond our control. We may become self centered, oblivious, start to lie or cover up our problem, and become more anxious and stressed. All of these are signs of an addiction…but the beautiful thing is…there is a way out.
Whatever your addiction or circumstance, there is always help. This talk I recently read on addiction talked about willpower and how brain research says that willpower only seems to deepen the addiction and make it worse. It is a prideful direction and it can constantly result in frustration and discouragement. This can become very exhausting. We may be trying to use all of our willpower to overcome an addiction, but the true substance that needs to be acknowledged is desire. The desire for the substance of behavior. If there was no desire, there would be no use of the substance…this can be a hard thing to tackle though by yourself. And that is where the Savior comes in. These types of things and levels of addiction are beyond our control and we need the help of God to help us change our hearts and our desires. Approach your addiction with humility and faith in the Savior that you can change and He can help you do it. We need to pray and plead to Heavenly Father everyday and soon we realize that with "refinement of the spirit, the body will respond".
It takes great effort to change, but if your desires are more focused toward obedience toward God and not towards using our own willpower, full change can and will happen. We just need to stay strong and be patient.
One of my favorites parts of this talk was:
It takes great effort to change, but if your desires are more focused toward obedience toward God and not towards using our own willpower, full change can and will happen. We just need to stay strong and be patient.
One of my favorites parts of this talk was:
"When a behavior that has plagued us is finally eliminated using this process, we stand in awe of the change on several counts. It is amazing to be able to live without the addiction that has been destroying us. The desire is completely gone! That alone is a tremendous miracle to experience. We also recognize that only the Savior could have made this change, that we could not do it on our own. This is a highly intense and personal witness of His knowledge of us, His love for us, and His power in our lives."
Know that with His help, you truly can change. I have witnessed it in my own life and I know that it is real.
xoxo
Saturday, May 9, 2015
moms.
this is already my favorite post. a time to reflect on and brag about my cute mom. Silly Sal. I know it is cliche, and that everyone says it, but I know that I would be no where near who I am or where I am without my beautiful & selfless mother. I can't get enough of that blonde hair & a smile that literally lights up the room. my mom is the most caring, kind, and fashionable woman I have ever met. from day one she was running me to & from dance classes & teaching me to be a friend to everyone. she taught me to love life & to see the good and happiness in everyday, no matter the circumstance. she taught me to love, to have a strong testimony, and to take chances on people and opportunities. my mom loves people. she loves life. she loves making others happy and giving everything she has to her family. I really could go on and on…but I really just want to say how much I love you mom. & to thank you for being my mom. thank you for supporting me through everything in my life & for pushing me to be better and better everyday. I constantly thank my Heavenly Father that He sent me to someone as wonderful as you…
..if you haven't gotten to know this woman…you need to:)
Favorites about Sal.
1. her big heart.
2. her lessons about taking responsibility and blame for things… even if I thought FOR SURE they weren't my fault.
3. her singing voice
4. her love for her bowling league.. my nursery was at the bowling alley.
5. her love for her friends and their "dates"… lunch, tennis, skiing, golf..the woman does it all.
6. her dedication as "mimi" and how much she loves her grandkids.
7. her butternut squash soup.
8. her laugh when she thinks something is really funny… especially when she thinks I am funny.. (because besides my mom & myself, I think we are the only ones that do)
9. her love and passion for families & her dedication to my dad.
10. how she can be anywhere & make the best of it.
happy mom day to every beautiful mother out there. I love that we have a day dedicated to only you. you deserve it:)
Saturday, May 2, 2015
a little pick me up.
I have a lot of thoughts going through my head.
I recently moved to Boston (like 2 days ago), and I don't know if I have ever felt more lonely in my entire life. I left my Provo world where I had friends and family, and I was comfortable with everything around me…and now I am here in a brand new city where I don't know anyone and have to learn how to tackle public transportation (haha. welcome to the city life Sadie Rae). In my few days of being here and exploring my new world, I have had plenty of opportunities to not only talk to strangers, but thiiiiiink. and think. and think. Those people are right, you don't really appreciate what you have until it is gone. (dang it. I hate when they are right). More than ever I am just realizing how blessed I am to have had the experiences I've had and for the people in my life. I have a loving family and a mom who calls me everyday to check in and make sure I am okay. Even at 24 I still cry to my mom and need her to take care of me..and she does a pretty amazing job:) I have a lot of people to be grateful for… but out here, it feels like I am so far from what I know & from the people that love me. Guess it is time for a few more crying sessions & little bit more of growing up… Im trying to be brave. To act like I know what the freak I am doing at the T Station. To explore & dive into Boston…I just feel alone… but even in my weakest and loneliest moments.. I know I am not really alone. ever. & I know that it will get better.
I want you to know that you are never alone. That even in your darkest times, God is there with his arms wrapped tightly around you. He can't always give you all of the answers… but He can help you through your choices & experiences. A lot of the things I have been through--my fears and insecurities about life--have made me feel like I was an outsider and that something was wrong with me. That no one else goes through the same things I do. I have learned, however, that every person experiences things at different levels and at different times… and that every thought, feeling, and insecurity that you have is valid. We are all human. We are all more alike than we realize. We are going to have thoughts about not being good enough… we are going to compare our lives with someone else…we are going to cry, feel alone, get really angry, and have doubts…but these moments will pass. Without these things, its almost as if happiness & moments of peace wouldn't feel as fulfilled. We are all at different levels and experience things in a different way. We are all placed with trials and moments of weakness for different reasons.. and the powerful thing is that we are all capable of overcoming whatever thought or moment we are having. Through patience, friends, and a lot of prayers..things can and will slowly start looking up. Remember that there is no such thing as "normal" & that it is okay to have moments of weakness. It is about baby steps and never giving up on yourself. You may take a few steps backwards..and that's okay too…just never stop trying to move forward. Heaven is on your side. Trust in God and His plan for you.. even if yours doesn't quite match up;)
Here is one of my favorite quotes & scripture's to give you that extra pick me up:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, "who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God; your playing small doesn't serve the world"
…"I would that you would remember that as much as ye shall put your trust in God, even so much ye shall be delivered out of your trials, and your troubles, and your afflictions, and ye shall be lifted up at the last day" Alma 38:5 .. you just need to go read all of Alma 36, 37, and 38. They are wonderful.
Im grateful for this time in Boston & for this experience to grow… even if it is hard…God makes that hardship a lot lighter.
xoxo
Tuesday, April 21, 2015
my favorite art form.
my heart is full when I think about the last 2 years & being apart of the BYU Cougarettes. Dance has always been a big part of my life, and through this beautiful art form, I have had some unforgettable opportunities. I can't leave the Cougs without bragging about each and every one of them and the angels they are. I don't know what it is about dancers, but you create this unexplainable connection when you not only are with each other everyday, but get to dance together and share something that is so special to you. I have had this experience on every dance company I've been apart of, but there was something about adding in the gospel at BYU that made the Cougarettes extra special.
…These girls will never know the impact they had on my life…it's hard to explain... but without them, my testimony and personal strength wouldn't have stayed as strong and intact. Each day I walked in and I was welcomed with smiles & hugs that immediately made me feel good. No matter what had happened that day, good or bad, my Cougs always made me feel that much better. We were a team & we knew what that meant… if one of us was struggling, we all struggled. There were days where I was feeling so low, and the last thing I wanted to do was go to practice… but when I did, my problems became a little lighter, and that to me is the presence of an angel. God knew I would need these girls…each and everyone of them for individual reasons. We laughed, we cried, we worked really really hard, and most of all, we made each other better. Never have I been on a team where every person exudes so much genuine love & compassion for others. I just truly feel so blessed that I was able to dance on a team for 2 years with some of the most amazing girls--inside and out-- thank you cougs. I hope you never forget how beautiful you are and how you have a special affect on sooo many people around you. You are a light in this world & I want everyone to witness that.
Thanks for teaching me to be brave.
Thanks for making my smile a little brighter & my laugh a little louder.
Thank you for sharing your incredible talents with me.
Dancers are some incredible artists that share so much more than just dance moves.
…These girls will never know the impact they had on my life…it's hard to explain... but without them, my testimony and personal strength wouldn't have stayed as strong and intact. Each day I walked in and I was welcomed with smiles & hugs that immediately made me feel good. No matter what had happened that day, good or bad, my Cougs always made me feel that much better. We were a team & we knew what that meant… if one of us was struggling, we all struggled. There were days where I was feeling so low, and the last thing I wanted to do was go to practice… but when I did, my problems became a little lighter, and that to me is the presence of an angel. God knew I would need these girls…each and everyone of them for individual reasons. We laughed, we cried, we worked really really hard, and most of all, we made each other better. Never have I been on a team where every person exudes so much genuine love & compassion for others. I just truly feel so blessed that I was able to dance on a team for 2 years with some of the most amazing girls--inside and out-- thank you cougs. I hope you never forget how beautiful you are and how you have a special affect on sooo many people around you. You are a light in this world & I want everyone to witness that.
Thanks for teaching me to be brave.
Thanks for making my smile a little brighter & my laugh a little louder.
Thank you for sharing your incredible talents with me.
Dancers are some incredible artists that share so much more than just dance moves.
Sunday, April 19, 2015
moving forward.
welp… Cougarettes is officially done, and college graduation is just around the corner. You can probably guess that a lot has been on my mind! I have lived in Provo for nearly 6 years and have been blessed with great friends and opportunities. My heart is full when I think about my experiences here and how much I have grown. It is somewhat bittersweet moving on from something that has been so good to you and has really shaped you… but that excites me even more for what is to come! …
I have always been the type of girl who loves change and new adventures, but for some reason this one has been a little harder. I am comfortable here in Provo..I am happy and content with my life.. & graduating from college seems like a big, scary step into the real world (especially when you step out of the Provo bubble). I do know this though… it is time for that change. It's time to learn and grow from new surroundings and people and experience new things. I have become somewhat complacent with my life here and I know it's time to move on. I will be forever grateful for the beautiful people here in Provo that have touched my life and made me a better person. Without them I wouldn't have gained a stronger testimony of the gospel and I probably never would've ended up at BYU and dancing on the Cougarettes. Let me tell you… those girls are pure angels and they make you want to be better each and everyday. I want to take a fraction of what they gave me daily and give that to the rest of the world. That is my goal. To not look back and wish for this time in my life all over again… but to take everything from it and help spread what I have learned to everyone else. I want to spread the same love, kindness, and passion for life. So for that I say thank you provo:)
…. If you are starting to feel a little too comfortable and complacent in your life, maybe it's time for a little leap of faith and a change. It doesn't have to be anything big… a change doesn't require a big move out of state..it can be small and simple. always keep pushing forward & trying to find new ways to grow. Learn from new opportunities & people & don't be afraid of change. Embrace it. We will always hold on to beautiful memories and priceless moments---but know that there are far better ones to come.
"There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind" --C.S. Lewis
Cheers to a new adventure! I'm ready!
xoxo
I have always been the type of girl who loves change and new adventures, but for some reason this one has been a little harder. I am comfortable here in Provo..I am happy and content with my life.. & graduating from college seems like a big, scary step into the real world (especially when you step out of the Provo bubble). I do know this though… it is time for that change. It's time to learn and grow from new surroundings and people and experience new things. I have become somewhat complacent with my life here and I know it's time to move on. I will be forever grateful for the beautiful people here in Provo that have touched my life and made me a better person. Without them I wouldn't have gained a stronger testimony of the gospel and I probably never would've ended up at BYU and dancing on the Cougarettes. Let me tell you… those girls are pure angels and they make you want to be better each and everyday. I want to take a fraction of what they gave me daily and give that to the rest of the world. That is my goal. To not look back and wish for this time in my life all over again… but to take everything from it and help spread what I have learned to everyone else. I want to spread the same love, kindness, and passion for life. So for that I say thank you provo:)
…. If you are starting to feel a little too comfortable and complacent in your life, maybe it's time for a little leap of faith and a change. It doesn't have to be anything big… a change doesn't require a big move out of state..it can be small and simple. always keep pushing forward & trying to find new ways to grow. Learn from new opportunities & people & don't be afraid of change. Embrace it. We will always hold on to beautiful memories and priceless moments---but know that there are far better ones to come.
"There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind" --C.S. Lewis
Cheers to a new adventure! I'm ready!
xoxo
Monday, April 6, 2015
something greater.
This weekend I had the chance to hear from the prophets and apostles of my church. It amazes me how God sends these men to deliver the exact messages I need to hear… and how in tune they are with Him to do so. A few nights ago I was feeling especially down and discouraged, and I felt like my future was a fearful blur. I felt extremely lost and defeated in everything I had been trying to accomplish. It wasn't until this General LDS Conference started that I felt God scoop me up and give me a hug. I felt like so many talks were directed towards me & gave me so much hope. That is what this gospel offers. HOPE.
"Doubt not. Fear not."
…One of the talks that hit me the most was Elder Bednars about FEAR. It is OKAY to experience fear. Even Adam and Eve first experienced fear before realizing their true purpose. Fear is normal, however there is a difference between worldly fear and Godly fear. Worldly fear brings anxiety and self-defeat. Godly fear brings a sense of peace & comfort…even though not all of your questions are answered.
The time is now to face your fears. God will not let you face these by yourself. "Doubt not. Fear not."
Don't let the things that you don't completely understand take over the things you do! Never stop pressing forward and walking towards the light..even when you aren't sure if it is still there. God is there-- Elder Bednar just gave me a lot of peace and hope. I recommend reading all of the incredible talks on lds.org.
…also…
My heart has been full this Easter weekend. I have never taken into account the level of importance and significance of this holiday. It represents the most incredible event that encompasses the whole plan of happiness. Easter is a day to remember Christ's resurrection and the atonement. A day to remember all the way back to Adam and Eve and the creation of the Earth. Eater represents something beautiful and beyond our comprehension. Without Christ's resurrection and the whole process, we would not be here at this time and we would not be able to utilize the beautiful gift of the atonement. We wouldn't have the chance to learn and grow. The chance to experience all of the beauty and the fight to get back to Heavenly Father.
you are special. God loves you more than you will ever know and He will never leave you.
REMEMBER HIM and be a little bit more grateful for Easter.
Thursday, March 26, 2015
limits
I believe that you should never set limits for yourself or sell yourself short on what you are truly capable of. Like I have always said, you are stronger and more beautiful than you will ever know. Each one of us has something so genuine and significant to offer the world and I hope we can all get a glimpse of our own true potential someday. Break down that wall of limitations and fear and go for what you want! What is the worst thing that can happen? .. I recently read a BYU devotional that talked about failing. Each day we are probably going to fail in someway….but that does NOT make us failures. Failing and continuing to push forward is what growth looks like.
I recently went through a situation where I worked so hard on a particular trick for dance and when it came time to present this trick, I failed. I was so confused and frustrated because I had worked so long and hard at something that was very important to me, and in the end, I couldn't do it. That didn't make sense to me, and it took me a long time to figure out. I didn't want to continue to work hard at this particular task and I completely lost the motivation. It was too hard to get, and at this point, I found it pointless. I gave up and set a limit for myself, and I was frustrated and sad. I still don't know if I have the lesson from this situation all figured out, but I do know that if I would've thrown this particular trick that day, I would've gotten hurt. God helped me set a limit because I wasn't ready, and the outcome could've been much worse if I just decided to go for this difficult task. I had worked long and hard… but I needed more time… and I needed to be okay with the fact that I just simply couldn't do it. This can be such a hard thing to accept, and I don't want this to come off in the wrong way. I don't want anyone to give up, I guess just in particular situations, I want you to be able to accept your limits. This is not to say you shouldn't work hard and give things everything you've got, but when it comes down to your safety or your overall mental health, there is a time and a place to stop. We are not all super human, even though we would all love that. I hope that this doesn't contradict what I said in the beginning. I truly believe that with the help of The Lord we can get past any limitation or block we face… it may just take longer than we want. Be okay with failing though and know that you are not a failure because of it. We all have different gifts, capabilities, and time frames. Just close your eyes for a second, take a deep breath, and keep pushing forward. Things don't always make sense.. but God is there every step of the way & through every situation He is making your stronger.
I recently went through a situation where I worked so hard on a particular trick for dance and when it came time to present this trick, I failed. I was so confused and frustrated because I had worked so long and hard at something that was very important to me, and in the end, I couldn't do it. That didn't make sense to me, and it took me a long time to figure out. I didn't want to continue to work hard at this particular task and I completely lost the motivation. It was too hard to get, and at this point, I found it pointless. I gave up and set a limit for myself, and I was frustrated and sad. I still don't know if I have the lesson from this situation all figured out, but I do know that if I would've thrown this particular trick that day, I would've gotten hurt. God helped me set a limit because I wasn't ready, and the outcome could've been much worse if I just decided to go for this difficult task. I had worked long and hard… but I needed more time… and I needed to be okay with the fact that I just simply couldn't do it. This can be such a hard thing to accept, and I don't want this to come off in the wrong way. I don't want anyone to give up, I guess just in particular situations, I want you to be able to accept your limits. This is not to say you shouldn't work hard and give things everything you've got, but when it comes down to your safety or your overall mental health, there is a time and a place to stop. We are not all super human, even though we would all love that. I hope that this doesn't contradict what I said in the beginning. I truly believe that with the help of The Lord we can get past any limitation or block we face… it may just take longer than we want. Be okay with failing though and know that you are not a failure because of it. We all have different gifts, capabilities, and time frames. Just close your eyes for a second, take a deep breath, and keep pushing forward. Things don't always make sense.. but God is there every step of the way & through every situation He is making your stronger.
Sunday, March 15, 2015
Unexplainable
Sometimes I will go through moments that are unexplainable. Moments where I am so low and caught in such despair that I truly don't know how to move forward. I am not exactly sure what triggers these moments…it seems to be a combination of things…but once they happen, they seem to stay for what seems like forever. I don't know where to turn or what to do. Talking to someone about it doesn't seem like an option because it is something that I can't even explain to myself… These sorts of things don't happen to me. I am a happy person who has so much love for life and people. I try to rack my brain about why I feel this way and how I can fix it, but it seems to get me nowhere. I just sink deeper and deeper and I want to give up everything. I suddenly don't feel good enough for anything or anyone. My life seems like a mess that is unfixable. Sometimes I question if I have a level of clinical depression, or if these moments are normal? They don't come around very often, but when they do, they hit hard…
I hate them.
I hate feeling like I have lost control.
I try to put on a good face and fake a smile, but inside I am dying. "Things like this don't happen to me.. they cant.. I don't have any reason to be sad or fearful. My life is great and I am very blessed". All the more reason for me to get more upset with myself. It is like I can't turn my brain off…and I don't want anyone to know that I have a problem. Im happy Sadie Rae and I help others with their problems… I can't have them too. So I try to hide what is really going on inside.
Do these moments ever happen to you? If so, you aren't alone.
… I definitely have not mastered these moments. I still have them and can't explain them.. but some how I get through them and get better at them each time. Maybe my how can help you a little.
First of all, don't be embarrassed. There are people that are just like you going through similar situations each day. Like I said, you are not alone, and there is help and hope.
Second, seek help..even if it is just in one person. For me, I try to tackle these moments all by myself, but I have come to find that I can't. The one person I turn to is my boyfriend, Richie, and he knows me so well that he can tell by the sound of voice if I am going through one of these unexplainable moments. He will ask me questions and get me to talk about it--even if I just write down how I feel. After writing it down we will talk through it and see what angles we can use to tackle it. He makes me feel valid about the way I feel and constantly reminds me of my beauty and value. He honestly is the main reason I get through anything.
Third...No matter what… you just have to keep moving. These moments of fear and despair can hold you stagnant and paralyze you (something we have talked about before). You find that through all of the pain and the tears, if you just keep moving, the light somehow finds its way and starts to shine again. It may take a long time, but it does, and it will! Never stop moving!
I have always been taught that FAITH HOPE AND CHARITY are the three stepping stones that encompass my religion and my life. You cannot have one without the other. Each day I pray for strength and help with my insecurities and fears. When I have these unexplainable moments of despair, Satan makes me feel like my prayers are not being heard and that the help is not coming… but once I get through another moment, I can look back and realize that God is there with me every step of the way. He is aware of the work I am trying to put it everyday to be a good person and follow Him. He is aware of me and loves me… and He loves you. Pray for strength and do the things each day that are obedient and show your dedication to making the world better. Put others first, serve, and have CHARITY.. & God will continue to bless you with strength. Never give up on HOPE and FAITH, because "faith and fears cannot exist in the same place". You must never give up on The Lord or on yourself. His abilities are unimaginable and through all of your trials and tribulations, He is preparing you and making you stronger than you know.
So if you have moments like these… don't give up and lose faith. I know sometimes I want to, but Richie won't let me and my Heavenly Father wont let me… and in the end, I won't let myself either. Deep down your strength and capabilities are unmeasurable. Seek the help that you need and don't be afraid to talk about what you are going through. You can beat anything thrown at you!
xoxo
I hate them.
I hate feeling like I have lost control.
I try to put on a good face and fake a smile, but inside I am dying. "Things like this don't happen to me.. they cant.. I don't have any reason to be sad or fearful. My life is great and I am very blessed". All the more reason for me to get more upset with myself. It is like I can't turn my brain off…and I don't want anyone to know that I have a problem. Im happy Sadie Rae and I help others with their problems… I can't have them too. So I try to hide what is really going on inside.
Do these moments ever happen to you? If so, you aren't alone.
… I definitely have not mastered these moments. I still have them and can't explain them.. but some how I get through them and get better at them each time. Maybe my how can help you a little.
First of all, don't be embarrassed. There are people that are just like you going through similar situations each day. Like I said, you are not alone, and there is help and hope.
Second, seek help..even if it is just in one person. For me, I try to tackle these moments all by myself, but I have come to find that I can't. The one person I turn to is my boyfriend, Richie, and he knows me so well that he can tell by the sound of voice if I am going through one of these unexplainable moments. He will ask me questions and get me to talk about it--even if I just write down how I feel. After writing it down we will talk through it and see what angles we can use to tackle it. He makes me feel valid about the way I feel and constantly reminds me of my beauty and value. He honestly is the main reason I get through anything.
Third...No matter what… you just have to keep moving. These moments of fear and despair can hold you stagnant and paralyze you (something we have talked about before). You find that through all of the pain and the tears, if you just keep moving, the light somehow finds its way and starts to shine again. It may take a long time, but it does, and it will! Never stop moving!
I have always been taught that FAITH HOPE AND CHARITY are the three stepping stones that encompass my religion and my life. You cannot have one without the other. Each day I pray for strength and help with my insecurities and fears. When I have these unexplainable moments of despair, Satan makes me feel like my prayers are not being heard and that the help is not coming… but once I get through another moment, I can look back and realize that God is there with me every step of the way. He is aware of the work I am trying to put it everyday to be a good person and follow Him. He is aware of me and loves me… and He loves you. Pray for strength and do the things each day that are obedient and show your dedication to making the world better. Put others first, serve, and have CHARITY.. & God will continue to bless you with strength. Never give up on HOPE and FAITH, because "faith and fears cannot exist in the same place". You must never give up on The Lord or on yourself. His abilities are unimaginable and through all of your trials and tribulations, He is preparing you and making you stronger than you know.
So if you have moments like these… don't give up and lose faith. I know sometimes I want to, but Richie won't let me and my Heavenly Father wont let me… and in the end, I won't let myself either. Deep down your strength and capabilities are unmeasurable. Seek the help that you need and don't be afraid to talk about what you are going through. You can beat anything thrown at you!
xoxo
disney advice.
"have courage & be kind"
If you haven't had the chance to see the Disney remake of Cinderella, you need to! I saw it tonight and it was magical. It had a beautiful message that left you wanting to be a better person.
Even when life is hard.. have courage and be kind. Kindness is free and is such a powerful tool.. especially in today's world. Something that seems like nothing, but that is done with kindness, makes it so much more.
So for today.. just try to be a little bit more kind:)
xoxo
If you haven't had the chance to see the Disney remake of Cinderella, you need to! I saw it tonight and it was magical. It had a beautiful message that left you wanting to be a better person.
Even when life is hard.. have courage and be kind. Kindness is free and is such a powerful tool.. especially in today's world. Something that seems like nothing, but that is done with kindness, makes it so much more.
So for today.. just try to be a little bit more kind:)
xoxo
Tuesday, March 10, 2015
a reason to smile.
Today is a new day.
A day to keep your chin up, smile, and be happy.
A day to try again and be a little bit better.
Today is a day to be grateful.
Today I am grateful for second chances. For those that believe in me more than I do myself. For those that love me and don't let me quit…
When you choose not to give up on yourself & on this day, you become stronger. things don't always change right away or become better right away, but they DO get better. Be gentle & patient with yourself.
Today I am grateful for daylight savings and that extra hour of light.
I am grateful for the good people in the world & those that truly give…I want to be more like you.
I'm grateful to SWIG for keeping me awake with my daily Dirty Diet Cokes;)
I'm grateful for the relationships I have in my life.
I'm grateful for all of the beautiful places to see & explore in the world.
Today I am just grateful and my heart is full. Take some time today to make a list of what you are grateful for. It can help your heart be happy.
xoxo
A day to keep your chin up, smile, and be happy.
A day to try again and be a little bit better.
Today is a day to be grateful.
Today I am grateful for second chances. For those that believe in me more than I do myself. For those that love me and don't let me quit…
When you choose not to give up on yourself & on this day, you become stronger. things don't always change right away or become better right away, but they DO get better. Be gentle & patient with yourself.
Today I am grateful for daylight savings and that extra hour of light.
I am grateful for the good people in the world & those that truly give…I want to be more like you.
I'm grateful to SWIG for keeping me awake with my daily Dirty Diet Cokes;)
I'm grateful for the relationships I have in my life.
I'm grateful for all of the beautiful places to see & explore in the world.
Today I am just grateful and my heart is full. Take some time today to make a list of what you are grateful for. It can help your heart be happy.
xoxo
Wednesday, March 4, 2015
a world of comparisons
Some of you have maybe heard the quote "comparison is the thief of joy". In this world of social media all we see are the "perfect" lives of other people and the pictures that are being posted. We don't know each individuals story or what they really go through. We don't see their insecurities and struggles…we just see the small surface of something that appears to be effortless and beautiful. I think that because of social media, comparing is at an all time high and relationships lack true substance. Sometimes we only know a person by their Instagram and Facebook posts and we are missing the whole picture. We are becoming so envious of other peoples lives that we are forgetting to look at how amazing our own is…we are forgetting to live our lives. If we really only knew the true strength and beauty that we each hold..and how we are all so much more similar than we think. Constantly comparing yourself to others can bring so much unhappiness and discontentment.. it can bring fear into your life and keep you from making decisions and taking leaps of faith. Don't let comparing steal the joy your life has to offer. Create meaningful and real relationships, discover the depth of true beauty, and know that you are incredible.
xoxo
Monday, February 23, 2015
simple.
My post today is simple.
Life can be simple--we just live in a world of complication and expectation.
Your biggest expectation is to live and be happy. This isn't always easy or possible, but finding those small and simple things that make you happy everyday is most important.
Be simply grateful for where you are at and what you are doing. Your "once upon a time" is now and you don't need anyone else's approval.
Be grateful for the angels that surround you and the people God has blessed you with. They are in your life for a reason and you are in theirs for a reason. Find a little more charity in your heart and try to see others for who they truly are.
Life doesn't always have to be as complicated as we make it. Don't worry too much about the future or hold on too much to the past. Take things one day at a time and try to find the simplicity and beauty in each day.
You are truly blessed and oh so special.
xoxo
Dedicated to my sweet Cougarette teammates. Never have I met more selfless and giving girls who are so in tune with the spirit and those around them. It was truly a blessing to share the stage with you this weekend and to be surrounded by you each and everyday. Thank you for being my angels and for making me stronger.
Life can be simple--we just live in a world of complication and expectation.
Your biggest expectation is to live and be happy. This isn't always easy or possible, but finding those small and simple things that make you happy everyday is most important.
Be simply grateful for where you are at and what you are doing. Your "once upon a time" is now and you don't need anyone else's approval.
Be grateful for the angels that surround you and the people God has blessed you with. They are in your life for a reason and you are in theirs for a reason. Find a little more charity in your heart and try to see others for who they truly are.
Life doesn't always have to be as complicated as we make it. Don't worry too much about the future or hold on too much to the past. Take things one day at a time and try to find the simplicity and beauty in each day.
You are truly blessed and oh so special.
xoxo
Dedicated to my sweet Cougarette teammates. Never have I met more selfless and giving girls who are so in tune with the spirit and those around them. It was truly a blessing to share the stage with you this weekend and to be surrounded by you each and everyday. Thank you for being my angels and for making me stronger.
Saturday, February 7, 2015
BE
Thinking about the future can bring anxiety. Thinking about the past can bring regret. So how do you live in the moment and not think about those things? How do you figure out how to "not think" and just BE? If we can master this, we can completely be soaked in each days moments and find the most joy. What types of things are giving you anxiety? What instances from the past do you need to let go of? … Each one of us have thoughts like this on a daily basis, but it is possible to get rid of them and have those BE moments. Here are a few "how to's" :
…Blogging world...Don't worry so much about what other people think. We live in this social media world where Instagram and Facebook define us and we compare ourselves to that other person who has more "likes". We are defined by our photos and our posts… and what we see on the internet has become our reality. We are becoming envious, quick to judge, and more critical of ourselves. Take a break from the social media world (literally) and take the time to remember all of the good in your life. This life is yours, and the person and dreamer that you are is just what the world needs. We don't need the next epic post, we need more people making a difference in the world without having to tell the world. So don't forget your beauty. And don't feel like you have to post about it either. Instead of taking the time to post up, take the time to get out and be you! Take the time to talk to people, do what you love, and find your own happiness. Don't let the internet define that for you.
…You know those moments that remind you how beautiful life really is? You can't really go searching for them, but I want you to take the time this week to let an opportunity like that happen. Go to dinner with old friends that know will make your laugh, get outside and go on a hike. If your weather is anything like Utah's has been, being outside is heaven right now:) …just be with the ones you love or go somewhere new and fall in love with what is out there. Life awaits and there are too many wonderful possibilities to just sit around and watch.
…When thinking about the future, don't let anxiety take over your and make you immovable. Be hopeful and have faith. And put that faith into action. We have been told that with faith and the Lords help, we cannot fail. Try not to think about what is ahead too much--- you can't control that much right now and you might miss what is happening right in front of you.
…Today has just been one of those days where I was reminded about the beautiful things in life. So I wanted to share this and remind each one of you how beautiful life really is. Let go of your past and be forgiving….its not worth it. Don't try to control the future and figure it all out… you can't. Just keep taking one step, one day at a time, and keep doing the best you can. :)
…Blogging world...Don't worry so much about what other people think. We live in this social media world where Instagram and Facebook define us and we compare ourselves to that other person who has more "likes". We are defined by our photos and our posts… and what we see on the internet has become our reality. We are becoming envious, quick to judge, and more critical of ourselves. Take a break from the social media world (literally) and take the time to remember all of the good in your life. This life is yours, and the person and dreamer that you are is just what the world needs. We don't need the next epic post, we need more people making a difference in the world without having to tell the world. So don't forget your beauty. And don't feel like you have to post about it either. Instead of taking the time to post up, take the time to get out and be you! Take the time to talk to people, do what you love, and find your own happiness. Don't let the internet define that for you.
…You know those moments that remind you how beautiful life really is? You can't really go searching for them, but I want you to take the time this week to let an opportunity like that happen. Go to dinner with old friends that know will make your laugh, get outside and go on a hike. If your weather is anything like Utah's has been, being outside is heaven right now:) …just be with the ones you love or go somewhere new and fall in love with what is out there. Life awaits and there are too many wonderful possibilities to just sit around and watch.
…When thinking about the future, don't let anxiety take over your and make you immovable. Be hopeful and have faith. And put that faith into action. We have been told that with faith and the Lords help, we cannot fail. Try not to think about what is ahead too much--- you can't control that much right now and you might miss what is happening right in front of you.
…Today has just been one of those days where I was reminded about the beautiful things in life. So I wanted to share this and remind each one of you how beautiful life really is. Let go of your past and be forgiving….its not worth it. Don't try to control the future and figure it all out… you can't. Just keep taking one step, one day at a time, and keep doing the best you can. :)
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